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look deeper into the conflicts and shadows in your life. by becoming more comfortable with them, everything will be easier. 

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Are you ready to spice up your life with some juicy conflict and shadow work? That's right, my friend! Contrary to what you might think, avoiding conflict and pushing away the shadows won't lead to a playful and fulfilling life. It's time to embrace them with open arms and use them as powerful tools for personal growth and transformation.

First off, let's talk about conflict. Yes, it can be uncomfortable and messy, but it also holds the keys to unlocking your true potential. Instead of running away from conflicts, why not lean into them with a generative mindset? A generative conflict is all about openness, creativity, respect, and mutual growth. When you engage in this type of conflict, you'll learn how to communicate better, problem-solve creatively, and develop deeper levels of understanding and trust. And let's not forget the cherry on top: generative conflicts can lead to more fulfilling relationships and a more joyful life.

Now, let's turn our attention to the shadows. You know, those parts of yourself that you try to hide or ignore. Well, it's time to shine a light on them and embrace them as valuable aspects of your being. Shadow work is all about exploring your unconscious mind and uncovering your hidden emotions, motivations, and beliefs. It might sound daunting, but trust me, it's worth it. By diving into your shadows, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself, break free from limiting beliefs, and unlock your full potential for a playful and vital life.

It's time to stop running away from conflict and hiding from your shadows. Embrace them as powerful tools for personal growth and transformation. Let's get playful!

CASE STUDY 

A non-profit organization that supported low-income families with their education was in a constant bickering between the board and the leadership team, preventing them from making meaningful progress.

The organization was fraught with conflict, and it seemed like every meeting was an exercise in futility. The board and the leadership team could never see eye-to-eye, and their differences always seemed irreconcilable. The atmosphere in the organization was tense and uncomfortable, and it seemed like things would never improve.

One day, the director of the organization had a revelation. He had been reading a conflict management book, and he had come to the realization that the conflicts and shadows in our lives are often rooted in deeper issues that need to be explored. Something deeper was going on, and he wanted to discover what it was. 

He called a meeting with the board and all the staff members, and he expressed his desire to better understand the divergence from all perspectives. He encouraged everyone to be open and honest and to share their thoughts and feelings freely.

At first, the conversation was difficult. The staff members were frustrated with the way they were being treated, and they felt like they were not being heard. The board members, on the other hand, felt like they were doing the best they could and that the staff members were being ungrateful.

But as the conversation continued, the staff members started to open up and share their deeper concerns. They felt unrecognized for their expertise, and wondered why they had not just gone into the private sector if they were going to be bossed around. The board members started to listen. They admitted that they had been viewing themselves as superior because of their experience in the sector, and had even been making jokes about the staff members behind their backs. 

The honesty of the conversation was like a breath of fresh air, and it allowed for a breakthrough towards a more participatory culture for the staff. The board members started to take the insights of the staff members more seriously, and the staff members started to feel like they were part of a team that valued their input.

The organization still had a long way to go, but the breakthrough was an important step towards creating a more harmonious and productive work environment. The conflicts and shadows that had been holding the organization back were finally being addressed, and everyone felt like they were working towards a common goal.

PRACTICES 

  • Take a break halfway through a conflict with someone. Ask each other how you are doing, see if there are any ways you could improve the process. 
  • Make a conscious effort of not running away from conflicts.
  • Learn to listen - Make sure that both sides are heard and that you are taking in all the information before responding.
  • Stay calm - Take a deep breath and focus on the present moment. Don’t let your emotions take over.
  • Focus on the issue - Stay on track and don’t bring up irrelevant topics or past grievances.
  • Avoid criticism - Speak to the behavior, not the person.
  • Search for a win-win solution. 
  • Be curious - Be open to considering different perspectives and solutions.
  • Think before you speak - Take a few moments before responding to make sure you understand the other person’s point of view.
  • Make it a learning experience - Think of the conflict as an opportunity to grow and learn from each other.
  • Take a break - If things are getting too heated, take a break to cool off and come back to the conversation later.
  • Cultivate a non-judgmental attitude towards your shadow
  • Ask your friends and community about your potential blind spots
  • Use dream work to explore your unconscious mind

RESOURCES 

BOOKS
  • Everything is Workable 
  • Compassionate Conversations 
  • Hard Conversations 
  • Boundary Boss 
  • The Art of Conflict Management: Achieving Solutions for Life, Work, and Beyond
  • Conflict resolution: The partnership way. John Wiley & Sons.
  • Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving Broken Promises, Violated Expectations, and Bad Behavior, by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler
  • Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most, by Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen
  • The Conflict Resolution Toolbox: Models and Maps for Analyzing, Diagnosing, and Resolving Conflict, by Gary T. Furlong
  • Managing Conflict in Organizations, by M. Afzalur Rahim
  • The Power of Positive Confrontation: The Skills You Need to Handle Conflicts at Work, Home, and in Life, by Barbara Pachter
  • Negotiating Success: Essential Strategies and Skills, by George Siedel
  • Conflict Resolution for the Helping Professions: A Practical Guide, by Allan Barsky and Jeffrey Kottler
  • Dispute Resolution: Theories and Practices, by Stephen B. Goldberg and Frank E.A. Sander
  • Conflict Management: A Practical Guide, by Susan S. Raines
  • The Art of Managing Conflict: Mastering Conflict Management Styles and Strategies, by Mark S
  • The Power of Your Shadow: Unlocking the Hidden Strengths of the Dark Side of Human Nature by Debbie Ford
  • The Dark Side of the Inner Child: The Next Step in Working with the Child Within by Stephen Wolinsky
  • Doing Shadow Work: How to Unlock Your Hidden Potential and Live an Authentic Life by Bonnie Weiss
  • Shadow Dance: Liberating the Power and Creativity of Your Darker Self by David Richo
  • Doing Your Shadow Work: How to Transform Your Shadow Self by Mary Ann Gardner
  • Shadow Work: Uncovering the Hidden Power of Your Dark Side by John J. Prendergast
  • The Shadow Work Journal: Tracking Your Darker Self Through Writing and Art by Katherine Fauvre



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